Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Bipolar Kids or Bad Parents?

Below is a very interesting article from the Pittsburgh Post Gazette that was recently posted on a homeschool list I subscribe to.

My older son was always very, um....shall we say, high-spirited when he was a toddler/preschooler and could have easily been diagnosed with ADHD or some such disorder. While I don't necessarily agree with the whole 'bad parenting' angle this article takes in every case, I can certainly see where this would be true in many cases. You see it every day at the grocery store. You know, the kid in the checkout line who repeatedly begs and pleads for a candy bar until mom finally caves in with an..."Ok dear, but just this once!". Often the mom rolls her eyes at others behind her as if it is somehow the kid's fault for being so belligerent, when she is really training her kid that if he just begs a few more times, she will eventually give in to his/her demands. While I am sure the others in line appreciate the kid no longer screaming, it will not take care of the problem on future shopping visits. I can definitely sympathise with the mom here because of her concern for the others in line (as parents we have all been in that situation!), but the overall outcome would be so much better if she ignored the kid's whining. It wouldn't happen overnight, but eventually the kid realizes that mom is a hardass and learn whining isn't the best approach.

I also think a lot of them are just high-energy, kinetic kids being forced to conform to what is expected from them. In many cases, especially if they are to go to public school, this means having them medicated so they can keep up with the rest of the class (or at least pay attention and appear to be keeping up). My son definitely fit this category when he was younger. Whatever activity he participated in, he had to be right in the thick of things...definitely very hands-on with everything (still is for that matter, but has MUCH more self control). He was never really one to want things when we went shopping, but instead wanted to touch and feel anything within his reach. He would often have tantrums when he was unable to have his way, such as not being able to hold the $200 vase tottering on the edge of a shelf, but he did eventually learn that he couldn't pick just anything up on a whim. Ironically, many of these ADHD traits he had have lead to the many leadership qualities he has now.

Anyway, on to the article!


Bipolar Kids or Bad Parents?
Pittsburgh Post Gazette
Sunday, November 18, 2007
http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/07322/834548-109.stm

At the urging of parents, doctors are medicating far too many kids who just need a better upbringing, according to Dr. Elizabeth J. Roberts who is a child and adolescent psychiatrist and the author of "Should You Medicate Your Child's Mind?"

On Dec. 13, 2006, 4-year-old Rebecca Riley died, drowning in her own lung secretions. Her death was the direct result of psychiatric medications which had been prescribed to her for a presumed diagnosis of bipolar disorder -- a diagnosis first given to her when she was only 2 years old.

In September 2007, researchers at Columbia University reported that there had been a 40-fold increase in the number of children diagnosed with bipolar disorder from 1994 to 2003 -- an increase which has shown no signs of slowing.

Worse than the current frenzy to diagnose children with bipolar disorder is the practice of medicating kids as young as 2 with the kinds of psychiatric medications that were once prescribed only to psychotic adults. The shocking reality is that the use of these potent anti-psychotic drugs in children increased more than 500 percent between 1993 and 2002.

This dramatic rise in childhood bipolar disorder has spurred a raging debate in the mental health field. Some psychiatrists insist that this incredible increase is entirely due to the identification of mentally ill children who had been previously overlooked.

Yet a 4,000 percent increase in childhood mental illness, specifically bipolar disorder, is simply implausible and difficult to justify based solely on improved diagnostic techniques. To the contrary, in the 30-plus years that I have been treating, educating and caring for children -- half of that time as a child psychiatrist -- I have found that the approach to diagnostics in psychiatry clearly has deteriorated over time, not improved.

There was a time when doctors insisted on hours of evaluation with a child and his parents before venturing a psychiatric diagnosis or prescribing a medication. Today many of my colleagues brag that they can complete an initial assessment of a child and write a prescription in less than 20 minutes. Many parents have told me it took a previous doctor less than five minutes to diagnose and medicate their child.

How, then, is it possible that in 2007 doctors are now able to identify hundreds of thousands of previously missed cases of bipolar disorder in children by reducing the time they spend with patients from multiple hours to just a few minutes?

On the other hand, there simply is no possible way that the number of children who actually have bipolar disorder has increased from approximately 20,000 to 800,000 in a nine-year period. Yet the arguments of skeptics are being dismissed by academics in psychiatry. Research psychiatrists appear to be more invested in defending their research conclusions -- funded by pharmaceutical companies -- than engaging in a meaningful discussion to examine these preposterous demographics.

What I find more astounding than the claim that there are 800,000 American children with bipolar disorder is the fact that there are that many children whose conduct is so aberrant that their parents are seeking psychiatric treatment for them.

The symptoms, which are regarded as evidence of bipolar disorder, usually are what most people recognize as ordinary belligerence. Children who have anger outbursts, who refuse to go to bed, who are moody and self-centered under the current standard of care in child psychiatry are being diagnosed with bipolar disorder. To most rational human beings, these behaviors describe an ill-mannered, immature and poorly disciplined child. Nonetheless, the temper tantrums of belligerent children are increasingly being characterized by doctors as the mood swings of bipolar disorder.

The over-indulgent parenting practices of the past 20 years have created a generation of dysfunctional children who are becoming increasingly more entitled, defiant and oppositional. In a poll by Associated Press-Ipsos, 93 percent of people surveyed said that today's parents are not doing a good job when it comes to teaching their kids to behave. According to Dan Kindlon, a Harvard psychologist, 50 percent of the parents he interviewed described themselves as more permissive than their parents had been.

The permissive parents of spoiled children seek refuge from blame by using the excuse that their child's angry outbursts are the result of a chemical imbalance. Since a psychiatric condition is completely beyond a parent's control, a diagnosis of bipolar disorder is the perfect alibi. Once a child has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, a parent feels absolved of guilt or responsibility for the child's misbehavior and therefore, the parents' discipline practices cannot be called into question.

Parents looking for a psychiatric explanation for their child's misbehavior will find an abundance of support in the media and on the Web for the conclusion that their child's temper tantrums are due to a psychiatric disease rather than the result of bad parenting. Psychiatrists, for their part, are more than willing to accept, without question, the assessment offered by a parent. Doctors have found it easier and less contentious to comply with a parent's wish to have their child diagnosed with a psychiatric condition than to confront the parent with the notion that their own weak parenting is the root cause of the child's aberrant behavior.

Using the diagnosis of bipolar disorder, doctors then justify the sedation of these children with powerful psychiatric drugs. Even though some children treated with anti-psychotics may be temporarily sedated, their belligerent attitude continues unchanged. Of the many children I treat every year who had been previously diagnosed with bipolar disorder, not one of them stopped throwing tantrums after being treated with psychiatric medications. Yet doctors continue to misdiagnose and overmedicate children to appease frustrated parents in spite of the many serious, permanent or even lethal side effects.

Tragically, as in the death of Rebecca Riley, her parents administered the multiple medications prescribed by their psychiatrist for Rebecca's "bipolar disorder" until the meds killed her. A few weeks ago, in an interview on 60 Minutes, Rebecca's mother told Katie Couric that she now believes that her four-year-old daughter had been misdiagnosed, had never been bipolar, and that Rebecca was simply mischievous.

When it comes to misdiagnosing and overmedicating children, doctors have an unwitting, though not unwilling, accomplice -- the parent. Ultimately, it is the parent who is the gatekeeper for their child's health-care delivery. It is the parent who pursues psychiatric treatment for their child, fills the prescriptions and administers the medications. Parents have a duty to protect their children from the folly of this disastrous approach to childhood behavior problems.
Instead of grooming, feeding and educating the next generation of Americans to be the fittest, brightest, most competent contributors on the planet, we have indulged, placated and spoiled our children into dysfunctional misfits. We are teaching our children to use a psychiatric diagnosis to excuse their antisocial behaviors. This will inevitably lead to a greater reliance on psychiatric medications, which unfortunately do not endow an individual with improved self-control or maturity.


Under the guise of treating childhood bipolar disorder, the spoiling of American children not only undermines their healthy social development, but it also puts them at great risk for the serious medical complications inherent in the use of psychiatric medications, including death.

7 comments:

Ben Hansen said...

Many parents are dysfunctional. No doubt about it.

Still, doctors are the ones who make the diagnosis and only doctors write the prescriptions. A lot of doctors are dysfunctional too!

There's an excellent new book, "Bipolar Children: Cutting-Edge Controversy, Insights, and Research," edited by Sharna Olfman.

Reviewed here:

www.amazon.com/review/R27D5QGFK4O8W4/ref=cm_cr_rdp_perm/

Melinda said...

So true, I couldn't agree more! Thank you for the book recomendation.

Anonymous said...

While I do agree that many parents simply arnt disciplining their children well and that many psychiatric disorders are being way over diagnosed, especially in kids (2 year olds on meds?!?), there still ARE kids with true psychiatric disorders.

We waited until my son was 5 to even concider an evaluation, as we knew it was possible he would calm down as he got older. He was diagnosed as ADHD but I continued doing research and after requesting further testing (including cognitive testing, an EEG, a full psychiatric work up, and my son being transferred to a special ed program because his school couldnt handle him) he was diagnosed as bipolar-at almost 8 year old, 3 years after the ADHD diagnosis.

True bipolar kids do have *temper tantrums* but they are different. I dont suppose you could understand until you see a bipolar child in a *rage* but they arnt there. Their eyes are empty. They are completely oblivious. I have other children as well, the difference between him and his siblings is just...wow.

In any case, I agree-but dont forget that there are cases of phychiatric illnesses in children and please dont put down the parents trying to help their children. What we need is more education for the doctors doing the prescribing and more in depth testing before deciding that a child has a disorder. And if a doc decides a kid has an issue and prescribes meds prematurely, the parents need to advocate for their children and get more testing done to be absolutely SURE that they actually have something wrong with them and arnt just your average bouncy kid.

Melinda said...

Thank you for your comment, Carri. I couldn't agree more with what you said...especially about needing more education out there for things like this!

Unknown said...

I have five kids. One of them is different. Unfortunately for all of us - he happens to be the one who came first. What this means is I didn't have the experience to know that something was wrong...

If you saw me at the grocery store giving my son the candy he demanded... you'd be totally appalled... But what you don't know is that something as simple as 'putting my foot down' about something like a piece of candy at the checkout would escalate into a TERRIFYING meltdown. I have always had to choose my battles carefully.

I thought it was me. I agreed with the people who gave me the ugly looks in the check-out line. :( My other four kids? They don't get candy in the checkout line and I do not give in to fits and tantrums. The difference is - unlike their oldest brother - they won't attempt suicide over the matter.

The one thing I've learned from this is not to judge other parents too harshly... I suppose the good Lord thought I needed a humility lesson in that area. :) Point taken. I have been humbled.

my3sons said...

Wow! I was doing a search online regarding homeschooling a bipolar child and up comes this blog. I am so disappointed that this is common thought about these kids and the families/parents who live this nightmare with them. I have 3 boys....all very different but I knew there was something VERY different about my youngest. We did not even think of having him evaluated or even entertain the idea of there being anything wrong until he was older. Each year presented a new challenge and as each year progressed, the symptoms worsened and it became more obvious that we needed help. We are a Christian family, always have been and we strive to raise our children on Christian values. So this is not an issue of "bad parenting" or "lack of faith"...we've heard it all. Early Onset Bipolar Disorder is a neurological disorder. It likens itself to epilepsy. If a child were to fall to the ground in public and begin seizing due to their disorder, people would rush to help. If a child, who has the same type of "charge" go off in their brain, but instead of seizing, they begin to rage and scream, people judge, shake their heads, make comments and simply stay as far away as possible. I am a mother who has been through this nightmare for many years now and find it very discomforting that this thought still exists. I would suggest that if this is your impression of this horrible disorder, that you would first find someone who deals with it firsthand and hear their story of what they are living through. Second, educate yourself. This is a very real and very lonely disorder for a child and his/her family to have to live through.

Mommyddw said...

I have four children, ( bi polar is hereditary - it is on both sides of our family) so I ended up with three very different children. Don't forget if you are like me, bi
Polar can be brought on by a traumatic event, so I'm sure all of my children have bi polar!! Lucky for me my oldest dosen't exhibit it (yet)!! I homeschool, my mother and father-in-law hate me for it, but they are self absorbed, so I don't have to deal with them too much!! They spend no time with my kids-only to criticize me!!